Mindset #3: Be Authentic
As soon as you stop shaming yourself for being an introvert and you remove that label from your perception all together, something magical will happen.
In the beginning I claimed that girls are not actually attracted to a loud obnoxious alpha male. Here is why: They don’t care about what exactly that behavior is, they care about what it says about you.
Unfortunately, extraversion is linked to authenticity in our culture. We think that everyone who expresses themselves loudly and boldly is also conveying the truth.
Therefore, whenever a man has that kind of outgoing personality, we automatically ascribe him more value than other guys. That’s just how it is, so you better come to terms with it. The thing that matter for you, however, is that you can live that authenticity even as yourself, a guy with introverted tendencies.
As soon as you take her on a date, you can show that side of yourself. If you’re not in a superficial environment like a nightclub you’re free to express that side of yours.
You may even want to tell girls that you’re a little bit shy at first-and then shock them with that other side of you, the one you will learn to unleash when you’re alone with her at some point.
Now, you probably think that all this change in your mind will take a while to implement. And you’re right.
Like everything, learning how to seduce girls as an introvert takes time and persistence. Just think about how long you’ve been living with your old paradigm!
Now you’ve learned that perhaps you aren’t even an introvert. Even if you are, you may stop labelling yourself. You also learned that loud guys don’t get girls because they’re loud, but because they’re themselves.
So now you’re free to be the person you are-however introverted, as long as you’re able to temporarily step out of that mode to draw some attention to your personality.
And then there is your fear, which you need to lean into if you want to grow as a man. You might even discover a more extroverted site of yourself on the way. But now you’re probably boeddhistische mannen wondering: “What do I actually DO in order learn how to seduce girls as an introvert? I want to start right now!”
Action Step #1: Go to the Proper Places to Meet Women
This is pretty obvious, right? You can’t get laid by sitting in your basement and waiting for the girls to arrive.
To be honest, I absolutely hate this place…can we please go to a library and make sweet love between the bookshelfs?
It’s common wisdom that you ought to go to nightclubs to meet girls. But that’s just wrong. You should go to a place you enjoy going to.
As an introvert, this is most likely going to be an environment that is a bit quieter. Perhaps, you prefer chill bars, going to cafes (so you don’t have to talk so loud), or even do online dating. (In that case you can actually stay in your basement.)
Of course it’s good for your personality if you challenge yourself to be authentic in a loud environment like a club.
But right now it’s easiest if you go to a place that doesn’t put strain on you, one where you can express yourself as nothing but yourself. (You still have to talk, of course.)
Action Step#2: Start a Low-Key Interaction
Unless you look like a model, girls will rarely come up to you. So the most important thing for anyone who’s learning how to seduce girls is to take initiative.